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Progressive muscle relaxation for anxiety in selective mutism
How a brief tension and release exercise can reduce physical arousal, build body awareness, and support communication practice.
Braverly Health
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What progressive muscle relaxation is
Progressive muscle relaxation, or PMR, involves gently tensing and then releasing muscle groups while noticing the difference between tension and relaxation. Anxiety can bring muscle tension, shallow breathing, and a body that feels prepared for danger. PMR provides a structured way to recognize and release part of that physical arousal.
For selective mutism, the practical goals are body awareness, steadier attention, and recovery. Repeated practice can help a person notice tight shoulders, hands, jaw, or legs earlier and use a targeted release before, during, or after a difficult communication situation.
A short routine
Sit or stand in a comfortable position. Press your feet gently into the floor for about five seconds, then release for ten. Make soft fists, hold, and release. Lift the shoulders slightly toward the ears, hold, and release. Press the tongue lightly behind the top teeth or soften the jaw without clenching. Finish by noticing the whole body for one natural breath.
Use gentle effort, not maximum force. Skip any area that is painful, injured, or medically restricted. A clinician or medical professional can help adapt the routine when needed.
Practice before using it with communication goals
Learn the sequence when anxiety is low. Keep it brief and predictable, and let the person choose which muscle groups to include. Children may prefer simple images such as squeezing a sponge and letting it go; teens and adults may prefer a silent written sequence.
When the skill is familiar, decide whether to use it before practice, during a planned pause, or afterward for recovery. Keep the sequence short enough that it supports the communication activity rather than replacing it.
What to track
Notice whether the routine changes body tension, willingness to remain in the situation, recovery time, or ability to use the planned communication method. A zero to five tension rating before and after can be enough.
If tensing increases pain, panic, dizziness, or distress, stop. Slow movement, stretching, an external grounding activity, or no relaxation exercise may be a better fit.
Putting this into practice
Choose two or three muscle groups and practice the routine once a day for one week in a comfortable setting. Record a simple tension rating before and after so the person learns which areas change most.
Then connect the same brief routine to one planned communication activity. Use it at a consistent point, such as before the cue or after the practice, and continue to track the communication step as well as physical tension and recovery.
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